Let’s face it, it’s much easier to write positively or sexily about a position, toy or fetish that you enjoy than one you don’t. Whether you like or dislike that Dirty Sanchez you have to write about, you need to find a way to make it sexy. Here are a couple of tips:

1. Write about something similar that you do find sexy. Once you are done, change the position, fetish or toy you wrote about to the one you’ve been asked to write about. Make sure all the information is accurate and realistic.

2. Get turned on by the fact that your audience will be turned on. Okay, so you aren’t writing about something that turns you on–you are still going to get your readers turned on and that, my dears, is a turn on. Focus on the joy you bring and it makes it easier to write.

3. Explore the psychology or physiology behind the subject. If you have a better understanding of why your audience gets turned on by or enjoys this particular subject, you will have an easier time writing about it.You can do this by researching online or visiting online groups dedicated to the subject you are writing about.

4. Refer the gig to another sex writer. If you really can’t get past your hang-ups, send the work to a writer who can.

May your writing never pre-maturly ejaculate,

Euni

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Conflicting Desires: Notes on the Craft of Writing Erotic Stories by Han Li Thorn is the real deal. This book covers a lot of interesting ground and is perfect for newcomers to erotica writing. Do you know how to convey plot information without resorting to cliches and overblown sex imagery? How do you communicate the heat and passion of the sexual moment without coming off like bad porn?

Any book on how to write erotic stories that references Joseph Campbell and Bret Easton Ellis is definitely coming from a different place than your average “write sexy” how-to.

I’d advise anybody who wants to learn more about writing erotic stories to pick up Conflicting Desires. This is money well spent.

Some might complain that the tone is a bit scholarly for an erotica book, but trust me, you need the information in these pages if you want to break into erotica. The art of writing ANY story involves these mechanics, but Thorn does take the time to address specific situations, character types and other issues common to erotic fiction.

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